When I got married I was advised to make it a priority to date my husband.
At the time I didn’t think too much about the advice. I mean it’s not like we would just stop dating now that we were married. And yet, that is exactly what happened.
After our honeymoon we both slipped into our busy work schedules, and doing everything needed to keep our home running (like shopping, cooking, cleaning…) Sure when we weren’t busy working we were often found together. However that is not the same as dating.
When you go on a date, then your partner is the center of your attention. You put the world on hold and become each other’s world.
Once children started coming into our lives we found ourselves even more busy and our funds even tighter. Where dates were a rare occurrence before, now they were downright nonexistent.
My husband and I began to notice a strain on our relationship. Don’t get me wrong. We still loved each other. Very much in fact. Yet, there definitely was a strain we were feeling. Eventually we sat down and talked about what could be wrong.
We realized that we had been soooo busy with everything else that we had been neglecting our relationship. We needed to start focusing on building our relationship once more. We needed some us time. We needed to follow that long forgotten advice and start dating.
So we started going out on dates again. And can I tell you the world of difference it has made?!? Our marriage is now stronger than ever before. I LOVE it!!!
Since money is still tight for us (with 3 children a mortgage and a home business) we have become experts on fun dates that don’t break the bank. Here are some of our favorites!
Date Nights Out:
– A Date to the Park
We live in a young community. One of the youngest in the nation. Because of this, there are LOTS of parks nearby. We have found it can be a blast to run around and laughingly play on the equipment like we are decades younger.
-House Stalking Date
One of my husband and my favorite dates is to drive around through different neighborhoods and look at the architectural styles of houses and note which we like the best. Sort of like dream home window shopping excursion. As we do this we tend to talk about our dreams/visions for the future. It is really a bonding experience.
-Window Shopping for Romantic Cards
I first got this idea from my Aunt Bea and Uncle Wally. They recently shared an Anniversary tradition that I just fell in love with.
“It began one year when we were too broke after Christmas to buy anything for our anniversary. We were at a local store perusing the greeting cards when I found one I liked. I handed it to Wally and said, “Here’s the card I would get if I bought a card to give you.” He found a card that expressed his sentiments and showed it to me. Then we both replaced the cards in the display and went on our way knowing how we each felt about the other. Since that day we have carried on the same tradition. Light-hearted, silly, fun, and FREE!”- Aunt Bea
Window shopping for cards that express how you feel about your spouse is not only an awesome Anniversary tradition, but I think it could make a fun date night activity as well.
Now going out to the movies can get expensive. But it is fun to go out and see a much awaited movie together on the big screen. To save money we usually go to movies on matinee on the weekend (Most theaters offer a discount for matinees) Or we go on $5 Tuesdays (Both the local Cinamark, and Megaplex theaters have this special)