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25 Ways to Love yourself This Year!

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For years, I have fought an inner dialog that is anything but loving. It is amazing how hard it can be to love yourself.

When I was younger I was too skinny, too flat, too awkward (especially around the opposite sex) and too shy. I was too frumpy and way too unfashionable. No matter what I did or tried to do it was never enough. I was never enough. At least, that is what my inner dialog too often told me. With maturity, I now understand that much of the negative inner dialog that I suffered from in my youth, (and at times still do suffer from) were because I had bought into lies.

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We are all being bombarded almost constantly with lies or false ideals about who we should be and what we should look like. If we aren’t careful it is easy to start believing these lies. Too many of us do, to our great sorrow. It is these insidious lies that tell us that we aren’t beautiful unless we are like size 0 for women or stacked with muscles if you are a man. That to be beautiful and of worth, we need to always look like we just stepped off the page of a beauty magazine or be wildly successful in the business world. On the flip side, it is also these lies that tell us that if we are overweight or unaccomplished then there is nothing we can do about it so we might as well learn to settle in our self-expectations about ourselves.

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My body may not be perfect, but it is quite amazing. I have been able to carry three precious lives within me. I have the ability to think, act for myself, manifest greatness, create beauty, contemplate the divine. How amazing is that? However, knowing this isn’t enough. Why? Because Truly loving ourselves is more than just thinking nice things about ourselves. It is about action. When we love ourselves we take care of ourselves. We nurture ourselves while at the same time nurturing truths about ourselves.

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Check out this list of 25 Ways we can Love ourselves this year, and see if there is something that resonates with you: 

1 – Take some time to meditate: Even if just 5 minutes.

2 – Pray: This is often a major part of my meditation, grounding, and daily shielding. When life gets you down PRAY.

3 – Read from the Holy Scripture: Nothing like the Word of God to nourish the soul. Personally, I LOVE Psalms & Proverbs in the OT and the Gospels in the NT.

4 – Choose to not give into ANY negative dialog: Words have power. Make sure you are watching both your internal dialog and the words you vocalize.

5 – Say out loud positive affirmations: This helps you retrain your mind by reaffirming truth.

6 – Drink a tall soothing glass of water: Even better is water with fresh lemon in it.

7 – Read a book: Books not only improve your intellect, but also increase your creativity, empathy, and imagination. For those who aren’t big readers, try listening to an audio book. That’s what my husband prefers. I am a nut when it comes to reading. My favorite books are fairy tales and biographies.

8 – Slip away to take a soothing Shower or Bath:  If you choose to go with a bath try adding Bubbles, Epson salts, or Essential Oils.

9 – Eat something healthy: You know that carrot or apple you know is somewhere in your fridge…Yeah, go eat that. Trust me your body will thank you for it.

10 – Give in to a nice hearty laugh: There are a ton of studies on how laughing does amazing things for your health.

11 – Create a vision board, write down/record your ideal life vision, or set inspiring goals: This will give you clarity and purpose in your life.

12 – Tell your loved ones that you LOVE them: Bonus points if you can do so in their love language so that they really get the message. But all else fails, at least, use those 3 simple words. We all need to hear them on occasion.

13 – Go for a relaxing walk: Fresh air, nature, and exercise…This is such a killer combo for relaxation.

14 – Smile: My father always said that no look is complete without a smile.

15 – Enjoy a Mommy’s Night Out (or if you are a guy a friend day): We all need some time to get away and relax with friends. 

16 – Go on a real date with your special someone: This is especially important after you are married and have kids.

17 – Serve someone else: Services helps you forget yourself and produces a high that cannot be obtained any other way.

18 – Engage in an intense cardio workout or weight training (even if only for 20 min): Working out slows your aging, improves your standard of living, and releases endorphin’s that help you to be happy. (Way better than any drug)

19 – Indulge in a personal hobby: Cooking, Writing, Crafts, and looking through Pinterest are just a few of my personal hobbies that I find joy in.

20 – Play: we all need to get in touch with our inner child regularly to stay young.

21 – Forgive someone who has wronged or hurt you: When we refuse to forgive others we are really just hurting ourselves. When we forgive and let go it’s amazing the peace, confidence, and joy we allow into our lives.

22 – Pamper yourself: try a new hairdo, indulge in a facial, pedicure/manicure. Try out a new scent. Explore new looks for fun. (even guys can pamper yourselves)

23 – Contact a friend you have lost touch with: I would encourage using the phone for that personal connection, but text, email, instant messaging works as well. The key is reaching out to nourish old friendships.

24 – Create a bucket list and start checking off items: We all have a bucket list of things we want to do while still alive. (even if only in our minds). It is time to stop dreaming and start living.

25 – Listen to your favorite music: Music has the power to bring peace, joy, energy, courage, inspiration and more.

“It’s NOT selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make happiness a priority. It’s necessary” – Unknown

If loving yourself for your own sake isn’t motivation enough for you, then try loving yourself for the sake of others. As women, we are called on to love and nurture others on a daily basis. However, the truth is that we can only give what we have. As we care for, nurture and truly love ourselves, our ability to nurture, care for and love others increases.

As a warning: once you start down the road of taking the time to care for, nurture, and truly start to love yourself this year, make sure you don’t listen to those lies that would tell you that you are being selfish or vain. You are not. You are being wise. You are learning to love so that you can give that love to others.

Did I leave anything off my list that you think should be there? What do you do to Love your AMAZING self?

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Eileen xo

Friday 5th of February 2016

A beautiful post. My oldest daughter thinks I am so together. I tell her always, believe me we work to get comfortable in our own skin. Lovely read

Julia

Friday 5th of February 2016

Yes it takes work to love especially ourselves. I am glad you liked the post.

Amy Jones

Monday 1st of February 2016

Great tips for improving my life this are amazing tips

Julia

Monday 1st of February 2016

Thanks. I am glad you liked them!

nicole escat

Sunday 31st of January 2016

Such a great list. I need to pamper myself i don't have a time for myself.

Julia

Monday 1st of February 2016

We all need to make sure we schedule time for ourselves even if its only 5 minutes.

Sequins in the South (@CarlsonLaci)

Sunday 31st of January 2016

I am definitely all about self live this year !

Julia

Monday 1st of February 2016

That's great to hear!

The Mad Mommy

Sunday 31st of January 2016

This is such an important post! We often forget to love or take care of ourselves! Thank you for this!

Julia

Monday 1st of February 2016

I totally agree. We are told to think of everyone but ourselves, but if we did that we would soon have nothing left to give.